We recently went to a very cool bowling alley in Uptown. (That's what they call it here)
It was very cool. We somehow managed a private lane!
They had really cool and personal touches, as evidenced above.
I had my camera, all ready to catch the wonderful family moments.
I loved watching the Mister put some muscle into it.
On paper or in photos it looks like a great day, right?
It wasn't cheap, but we're making memories, right?
But here's the truth.
It didn't work. Let's just say people were crabby.
Mean words were exchanged.
Tempers flared.
Food went untouched.
Vows were made to never bowl again.
That happens in real life. Sometimes in blog land everybody's life looks so perfect.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
Honestly, when we got home my first impulse was to delete the photos and never blog about this day.
But this is real life.
Sometimes a little balance is needed.
I need to remember that days like this happen to EVERYBODY....even to those bloggers I read whose lives look perfect.
This is life. It can be messy. I need to learn to take the good with the bad.
That is reality.
That is honesty.
Amen.
17 sweet comments:
Why is it that when I read this I can relate SO much and I can't tell you how much I appreciate your post. I struggle about how i want to come across in my blog, and I definitely want to be real and honest. I'm afraid sometimes if I tell the "truth" people won't like me. I've been so moody and blah and crying for a couple of weeks now, but I didn't want to share that on my space. I do look at so many people and want to be just like them, have the perfect home and family, and always be happy. Comparing myself only creates more unhappiness, I have found, when I don't measure up.
LOVE LOVE LOVE this post. I can't really say enough about it.
Thank you!
Amen is right! How refreshing your honesty is..... thank you for sharing the not so perfect, but in it's imperfection.... it's perfection.
Thank you for this post! Thank you! Thank you!
I try to show all sides of our life, too. And to be honest about this stuff.
You are absolutely right, some bloggers lives look so perfect and it's fine that they choose to only share that. But for me, it's important to share that life has it's ups and downs and it's not perfect. I have this belief that we are all in this together. We all need to support each other and how can we do that if we aren't honest??
My husband and I had a pretty major blowout last weekend and I was upset for days (we are past it now, and we've grown from it), but I shared that on my blog and then I was starting to feel like, Am I the only one? I feel exposed and vulnerable. Should I take it down? Should I not share that? I was literally JUST laying in bed thinking that!
I firmly believe that God brings people into our lives and shows us what we need and this morning, I clicked on your blog for a reason: to know that it's ok to share the not so good stuff, too.
We all have days like that. Thank you for sharing!
Hi! I found your blog through Our Life in Words. I too try to blog honestly and loved quickly scrolling through your blog. I am looking forward to sitting down and reading more - especially the post about Lucy. My husband brought me home capris and a tank from their store in California when he was on a business trip and I have been in love ever since!
love love love this post.
first, i love the bowling aspect: my family has also had fights at bowling alleys. i empathize.
and secondly, this honesty is kind of amazing. i too feel like people in blogland sometimes tend to be all "sugar + lovely" as i call it. this is very refreshing.
:)
xo Alison
I am sorry it didn't go as planned. Thanks for being honest.
Yep, life is messy and hard and not always picture-perfect.
Thanks for this post...
I have a couple of recent outings I've wanted to blog about but can't find words for. Like you, I know the pics will make it looks like a great family day, but there is another story that the pics don't tell. You may have inspired me to share it. :)
Amen indeed!
Love the honesty! Guilty here of leaving out some of those moments we would just as soon not remember.
Gotta say, too, I loved the boxer shorts the other day - and the hand sanitizer on the table at the bowling alley! :-)
Amen!
Very well said Suzette! Knowing you I have known all along that your blog "told it like it is"...and for that reason the good news here is that this entry, well telling it like it is, is more of a rarity than an everyday occasion. As you say..."this is life...It can be messy." We learn from it and move on...God Bless You!!
LOVE IT!
I mean, that looks like an awesome place, and i'm glad you sprinkled it with honesty, because that makes this post so wonderful and relatable.
You said it. Every year I would envision us putting up the tree, drinking hot cocoa while singing and laughing. Each year would be the same... tempers, yelling, someone stomping outta the room. Never the way I had hoped. I changed my plan. I did everything myself except the ornaments and it helped. I had to give up on perfect b/c we are anything but! Thanks for keeping it real!!
girl, i've been there. more than once. every mother could say that (at least if she's honest). but like you said, you're making memories and even an unpleasant outing such as this made a memory. hopefully, in years to come, they'll be able to look back on it and laugh about it!
Amen! Sometimes I feel the same way. Some decor blogs make me think how in the world they do all that they do and have a clean house! I have had to remember that everything isn't prefect in the world:)
I love your pictures though.
Girl - thank you for this! Isn't it the truth? I had to quit reading one blog recently cause I felt so bad about myself when I did - this gal just seemed to have it all together and looked good to boot - I just gave up reading! Thanks for keeping it real, for real. A heart AMEN!
I fully appreciate your honesty! Heaven knows half of the stuff that happens around here is unpredictable and not always blog-worthy. I just try to find the funny in everything, and your reality of the bowling day was actually kind of funny. :)
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